While the men were fighting in the Civil War, the women had to run the towns. However, being in control of things was frowned upon for females during this time. Women were forced to stay inside the “Sphere of Domesticity” in order to be considered a lady. This only held some women back from acting in what was considered back then a "lady manner."
Some women chose to act outside the “Sphere of Domesticity” during the Civil War because they wanted to help out in society or they wanted a career for themselves. Louisa May Alcott desired to help in war, so she worked as a nurse in a hospital in DC. The issue was, she was young, attractive, and single. Society did not approve of that kind of lady working with young, single men. Harriet Jacobs was a runaway slave who focused on helping refugees. It is understandable that she wanted to help people who were like her at one point, so she knew what they were going through. However, society thought it was unacceptable to help slaves that escaped to the North. Martha Coston was outside the sphere by being in charge of designing flares for the war, but that the job she was good at and enjoyed doing, so she continued. Some women chose to dress up as men so that they could be soldiers in the war to support their country, despite the fact that they were outside of the sphere. Rose O’Neil was a Confederate Spy. This was not accepted, but she was enthusiastic about helping the Confederates. Dorothea Dix was amazing at being in charge of a nursing corporation in DC, even though soldiers and male doctors were upset that women were in charge of them. Some women felt that it was their duty to be in control of the community, since the men were away at war. However, this meant that they were outside of the “Sphere of Domesticity”
Some women chose to act outside the “Sphere of Domesticity” during the Civil War because they wanted to help out in society or they wanted a career for themselves. Louisa May Alcott desired to help in war, so she worked as a nurse in a hospital in DC. The issue was, she was young, attractive, and single. Society did not approve of that kind of lady working with young, single men. Harriet Jacobs was a runaway slave who focused on helping refugees. It is understandable that she wanted to help people who were like her at one point, so she knew what they were going through. However, society thought it was unacceptable to help slaves that escaped to the North. Martha Coston was outside the sphere by being in charge of designing flares for the war, but that the job she was good at and enjoyed doing, so she continued. Some women chose to dress up as men so that they could be soldiers in the war to support their country, despite the fact that they were outside of the sphere. Rose O’Neil was a Confederate Spy. This was not accepted, but she was enthusiastic about helping the Confederates. Dorothea Dix was amazing at being in charge of a nursing corporation in DC, even though soldiers and male doctors were upset that women were in charge of them. Some women felt that it was their duty to be in control of the community, since the men were away at war. However, this meant that they were outside of the “Sphere of Domesticity”
On the other hand, some women chose to maintain traditional gender roles during the Civil War because it was important to them to be known as ladies. For example, General Butler threatened that any woman who wore Confederate colors or ignored male soldiers would be known as a “common whore.” Women were not willing to have that title. Also, Alice Chapin was part of the temperance movement and gave medical aid to people. She remained in the sphere, even though she was poor as a result. Some women wanted to have a positive reputation in society.
During the Civil War, women had different priorities. Some women felt it was important to try to be in charge of things while the men were away at war, while others desired to act how the women back hen were supposed to act.



